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| medieval weekend |
Ex-Nomads’ Weekend
These days, ancient Hebrews catch a lot of grief for their genocidal fantasies and other indicators of unacceptable, Bronze Age bigotry. Still, it pays to also understand what they got right.
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| medieval weekend |
These days, ancient Hebrews catch a lot of grief for their genocidal fantasies and other indicators of unacceptable, Bronze Age bigotry. Still, it pays to also understand what they got right.
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| We wrote these rules in 2nd person to avoid sexist pronouns (1987) |
A disturbing feature of controversies like this is that they hurt the very women that the accusers are trying to help. In 2014, Nobel laureate Tim Hunt made a bad joke about women in the lab. He used an ironic voice to let his audience know that he was joking, but his words were written down and shared across the internet without tone of voice. People thought he was serious and spread the quotes to shame him. A friend of mine said that Hunt’s words had a chilling effect on women considering whether to enter STEM. OK, but the only way those words had a chilling effect was by their being spread as misinformation. In 2018, University of Washington computer-science lecturer Stuart Reges suggested a way to get more women into computer science and referenced studies showing that girls tend to do better at verbal skills than math. The opposite is true for boys. A reporter from the Seattle Times garbled this reference and accused Reges of making a false claim: that boys are better at math than girls. The reporter ignored Reges’s proposal to expose more women to computing by making a computing class mandatory, and again women got misinformation about a prominent man in STEM looking down on them. Did the reporter help more women feel good about possible careers computing? No. In the current case with me, someone is implying that I have the same disdainful attitude toward women in gaming as Gary Gygax did. The people spreading the post feel like they’re helping women, but surely it doesn’t help to make the field seem more sexist than it is. Personally, it hurts to have people talking about me, but the real damage is to the many gamers who don’t know my true history and who are tricked into thinking that the lead designer on D&D 3E was a hostile to women in gaming.
Another disturbing thing about this post is the implication that it’s sexist to take seriously the inborn differences between boys and girls. Common sense tells us that the differences we see result from a combination of inborn differences and social learning, and the science bears this out. In my career, I’ve worked repeatedly to raise the profile of women in characters, art, pronouns, and the workplace. Do I get disqualified from being a feminist because I take seriously the inborn differences between boys and girls? I don’t think so. In fact, it seems to me that we can do a better job of advancing women’s interests if we understand how women and men are different as well as how we’re the same. If you want to hear about inborn differences, listen to parents. And if you disagree with me, does that disagreement mean that we can’t work together to make a better tomorrow? Enough with the left’s circular firing squad already. My focus is on a Blue November, and I hope you’ll join me.
The original post from 2008 was a conversation starter, and it’s being shared as if it were a conclusion. The wording was needlessly provocative, and I’m sorry to everyone I hurt with it. That was the year my wife died, and I wasn’t at my best. The post was provocative, and what it provoked was a bunch of stories from women about how they’d been excluded from roleplaying games by all-boy groups. I learned that my post had been ill-informed. Sometimes I say things that are wrong, and then I get better information that I didn’t even know I needed. It’s all part of the process.
The other thing I’ve learned since 2008 is that I’m on the autism spectrum. That explains why people sometimes react to what I say in ways that I hadn’t predicted—because they’re neurotypical. Looking back, it was pretty ignorant for me to talk about the gender skew in gaming without referencing autistic traits (“engineer brain”) and their role in games and game styles. Over the decades, roleplaying games have become less “engineer-oriented” and more story oriented, and that’s great.
For me the big issue is the prevalence of misinformation on social media. I’ve been taken in repeatedly by misinformation myself, I’ve heard misinformation from my friends, and well-meaning people have spread misinformation about me. It’s a mess, and I don’t know what to do about it.
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| Kids made art and letters |
This meeting launches the project, it connects the kids’ actions to the community, and it helps families get to know each other. We had a couple climate-action folks from the congregation drop in, too.
Welcome, Chalice Lighting, and Introductions: For Introductions, people took a minute to find something that reminded them of the interconnected web of existence and bring it back. When each family introduced themselves, they also showed their item and talked about it.
Artwork: Got kids started on their art. The church provided blank postcards for the kids to put art on.
Adult Fishbowl: Each adult recounted a personal experience with the environment, pollution, climate change, etc. Kids pretended they weren’t there. (5 min)
Kids’ Fishbowl: Each kid said something about the environment. Grownups pretended they weren’t there. (5 min)
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| The 70s looked dire. |
Letter Writing and Art: Kids started wirting letters or kept working on their art, and they chatted. The leaders provided names and addresses of policy makers that they could write to, including the policy maker they were scheduled to talk to.
Screen Grab: Kids held up their art for a screen grab. Ideally you get an image that’s fun and safe to share.
Closing
For our Washington state congregation, we chose Rep Joe Fitzgibbon, who chairs the House Environment & Energy Committee. We arranged a half-hour block where he could meet with our families remotely. He spoke about his own passion for addressing climate change, and he answered questions prepared in advance by the families. As it turned out, he touched on some points that had come up earlier in the Art & Letters meeting, such as beef and acid rain. The families all changed their names on zoom so we could take a screen shot and not identify anyone.
The families met for half an hour before the meeting with Joe and for half an hour afterwards. That was more than enough time, and the extra space led to a valuable converation about get out the vote efforts and the election.
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| Rep Joe Fitzgibbon talked to us about his passion for fighting climate change |
Other Unitarian-themed posts: jonathan-tweet.blogspot.com/search/label/Unitarian
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| Unitarian University Church, Seattle |
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| The book I didn’t know I needed. |
| E O Wilson hugging Grandmother Fish h/t Greg Epstein |
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| Modern genetics says there are no homogeneous, essential “races” |
“If, as scientists, we fully abstain from laying out a rational framework for discussing human differences, we will leave a vacuum that will be filled by pseudoscience, an outcome that is far worse than anything we could achieve by talking openly.”
—David Reich, Who We Are and How We Got Here (2018)
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| Jonathan Haidt speaking in Seattle |